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The Year in Review (sort of)

Cam PhilsophyMom has a great New Year's Meme that I just had to steal respond to... again:

 1. What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before? Became a citizen of a new state springs to mind - after 43 years in New York State, I had to change all my id, voter registration and all that stuff.  It feels weird not being in New York, but I am closer to my birthplace of Boston!

2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I don't make resolutions, I set three guiding words and, well... I did do ok with some.  For 2014 I'll stay with those, but add the goal of doing with less: less spending, less weight, less stress.  There'll be more about the past year in posts to come, but that's enough for now.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Number Three Niece had a beautiful baby girl in February, and apparently Number Four Niece is due sometime in 2014.

4. Did anyone close to you die? Thankfully, no humans.  However, Bogie did join the Mantelpiece Cats.

5. What countries did you visit? Canada.  Montreal, specifically, which feels even less like America than other cities (although I've yet to visit Quebec City).

6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013? A sense of balance in my life.  So much happened, between a gig in NYC and this new job and moving and losing a cat and trying to make a new life, that it often felt like things were out of control.  Continuing to edit things out and declutter, plus really getting serious about growing older gracefully should help.

7. What date from 2013 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? The date we brought Bogie to the vet for his Last Visit (it was also the date I had my first colonoscopy, so not a great day At All!).

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? The Big Life Change is probably the biggest, but there's also smaller successes that need to be celebrated (like donating several thousand dollars worth of household items and clothes and books).

9. What was your biggest failure? I'm going to mimic PM and say "gaining back my weight" - it's been affecting my health (serious GI issues) and sense of wellness in general. In part it's stress eating, in part it's poor (very poor) choices in what I'm eating.  Several of my friends have lost a lot and look wonderful; with a gym literally right across the street from me, and an amazing salad bar at work to choose from, it's all on me to make this right again.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? See above re: GI issues.  That might not qualify as "illness" but trust me, it's not pretty.

11. What was the best thing you bought? There's no one thing, but it's all about tea: different varieties, plus the coolest travel "mug" and a milk frother so I can make homemade London Fogs.  Oh, and finally I got a tea cozy, which has made Winter Break so much more bearable.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? Thing One.  He's put up with a lot over the past few months.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? No comment.  I'm still trying to get over it.

14. Where did most of your money go? Three places: getting my home ready to be rented out,  job search/move, and Bogie's being very, very ill.  Not things I'd budgeted for at all, and I'm really hoping that's enough big financial hits for a while.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? Hmmm.... no one thing springs to mind.  Which does sound pretty pathetic, doesn't it?  Spending time with good friends and family has been exciting but in a different way than the question implies.  Honestly, I've been so blessed with my friends.

16. What song will always remind you of 2013? Not sure I could begin to answer this - the music that reminds me of times and places is all in the past.  Sadly, even though I work with teens, I'm woefully uninformed about the new stuff out there.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you: 
i. happier or sadder?  Happier, I think.  Calmer anyway.
ii. thinner or fatter?  Fatter.  Ugh.
iii. richer or poorer? Poorer.  See number 14 above.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of? Preparing for the Big Life Change (although it all happened very quickly). Sometimes I wonder if the choices I've made are the best ones.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of? Eating and being stressed.

20. How did you spend Christmas? I did the Jewish-Christmas-with-a-twist: one stocking stuff opened on New Year's Eve, movie and Thai food and more gifts on Christmas itself.

21. How will you bring in the New Year? Eve: at home, with risotto and champagne; Day: brunch, reading, napping.

22. With whom did you spend the most time on the phone in 2013? From January through mid-September, Thing One.  Recently, though, whole days can go by before I actually have a real phone conversation (or Skype/Gchat)

23. Did you fall in love? I wish!

24. What was your favorite TV program? This year I've watched less and less tv, although I do confess to being a little addicted to "home tv p*rn" (shows like "Love It or List It" and "Property Brothers", etc.) - during the day they make for nice background noise.

25. What was the best book you read? I don't think I could pick just one of the 325 I read, but Survival Lessons really stood out in terms of "what I don't normally read that wow'd me".

26. What was your greatest musical discovery? This year?  I didn't really do a lot of new music this year; to be more accurate, I didn't explore new music makers this year (I did get new albums by old faves).

27. What did you want and get? A job that challenges me in good ways, in a place that's interested in moving forward with the program.

28. What did you want and not get? Winning the lottery (my pie-in-the-sky wish); Bogie to get healthy and still be with me (my truly prayed for wish).

29. What was your favorite film of this year? Since none really stuck with me, I'm going with "none" as an answer. In case anyone's wondering or cares, the worst was "Man of Steel"

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I hit the half-century mark in style: interview for a consulting gig and then a gathering of friends at the Bookmarks Lounge.

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? Serenity

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2013? Layers, mostly neutrals with green accents (used to be pink accents, but green is really calling to me now).

33. What kept you sane? The responsibility I have for The Herd - knowing that I had to keep on going when it was very difficult.

34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Can't really answer - no one comes to mind.

35. What political issue stirred you the most? Not sure it's an issue, but every time I think that the two ruling parties have reached rock bottom in terms of idiocy and childish behavior, they prove there's a new low.  I'd be very interested in a "vote all the bastards out and start over" movement!

36. Whom did you miss? My uncle, Anchises (aka Robert)

37. Who was the best new person you met? The other librarian at work - she's fun, eager to get the program moving, and a great stabilizing influence.

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013. You're not alone. Every time I felt very alone, very afraid of what was coming next, someone appeared to show me the exact opposite. If I can be that person for someone else...

39. A song lyric that sums up your year. Let me get back to you on that.

40. What was your favorite moment of the year? Walking in to my new library, and realizing that even after two years away from school libraries, I could still do it.

41. What was your least favorite moment of the year? Speaking with the vet after Bogie'd been in the hospital for four (very, very expensive) days and realizing there was nothing we could do would be the very least favorite; second least was the day we finished moving everything out of my house and it was all painted and back to the way it'd been before I moved in.

42. If you could go back in time to any moment of 2013 and change something, what would it be?  Not sure about this - there's nothing I can actually change about Bogie's death, and beyond there's nothing I'd change.

43. What are your plans for 2014? To continue as I've been going in terms of decluttering and simplifying, to be a better friend to others, and to start 2015 in better shape financially, mentally and physically.

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