Resolutely Resolved

The past couple of months I've been inundated with bad news from (and about) good friends:  friends with only months to live thanks to the horror that is cancer... friends with parents close to dying (or dying)...  a husband in a serious accident while acting as a Good Samaritan... a friend battling bulimia... friends going through divorce or separation... friends dealing with mental problems (theirs or someone in their family)...

It's a seemingly endless litany that tears at my heart, and keeps these friends in my prayers.

So my resolution for 2011?  Not to take things, or people, for granted, but to be grateful every day for the good things in my life and for the good people I know.  That means you, my friends and family. 

Holding you all in the Light for 2011.


Works for me...

I know conventional wisdom says that you turn down the heat at night, while you're sleeping. For years I've bucked conventional wisdom and had my nighttime temperature slightly higher than my daytime (well, my daytime "at home" temp; my daytime "at work" is definitely in the cool range).


Because I don't like being cold when I wake up in the middle of the night, and it makes it difficult to get back to sleep. Now, some people might wonder why I'm so convinced I wake up at night - surely one run to the bathroom at 2am isn't that difficult to fall back asleep from? Except I wake up more often, frequently 4/5 times a night. Perhaps it's because of the cats, but I wake up to turn over in bed.


I don't move in my sleep, apparently, so when it's time to turn over, I wake up. I didn't realize my movements at night were so minor when I'm actually sleeping, as I'm pretty restless before finally falling asleep. This week I started counting the number of times I wake up, and the average is 4. At times the thought of keeping a dream journal has occurred to me, but that'd make me more awake than I'd like to be at 1:37am.

So the higher temp? Works for me.


So many books...

This list, via Shelf Awareness, made me realize how little current adult fiction (and non-fiction) I actually read. Of the twenty, I've read three!

The top 20 book club bestsellers for 2010 from Bookmovement.com based on readers' choices are:

The Help by Kathryn Stockett
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson
Sarah's Key by Tatiana de Rosnay
Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford
The Next Thing on My List by Jill Smolinski
Little Bee by Chris Cleave
A Reliable Wife by Robert Goolrick
Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout
Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese
The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows
Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen
The Book Thief by Markus Zusak
The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein
Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Glass Castle: A Memoir by Jeannette Walls
The Wednesday Sisters by Meg Waite Clayton
The Elegance of the Hedgehog by Muriel Barbery
The 19th Wife by David Ebershoff
The Forgotten Garden by Kate Morton
Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson


This hurts me more than it hurts you...

Let us agree that there is a precipitating event (or events), and that actual emotional or physical harm was done. Not just once, actually. And let us also agree that this was made clear to the other party. For example, "hey! you just stepped on that guy's foot" or "I don't like it when you say ....", etc.

So, should the response be

1. "I'm sorry I hurt you"
2. "I'm sorry you were hurt"
3. "Your/their [emotions/toes] will stop hurting long before my pride does"

(the above brought to you by reality, not necessarily mine)



Recently I've had cause to rethink first impressions - one in a positive way, one in a negative way. It's always difficult to change our thinking about someone or something, particularly if we're lowering our previously good thoughts.

The positive? I knew a man, let's call him Robert. We met on-line years ago and, well, disagreed is putting it politely. It wasn't just that we had different viewpoints, it was his feeling that if you disagreed with him (or understood the opposite position) you were stupid and somewhat evil. Needless to say, not one of my favorite people. Recently, however, I've come to know him in a different context and, well, in this context what he has to say is not argumentative and actually quite thought-provoking. Luckily, "I am not I, you are not you and they are not they" or else there'd be trouble!

The negative? I loved the book Still Missing, and I've recommended it to others. Then, this past weekend, I watched an episode of L&O UK. This particular episode, "Hidden", was based on "Bitter Fruit" (L&O "original"), which was based on the Ellie Nesler case... which seems to have inspired Still Missing. Not realizing it at the time, I'm now a little less enthused about the book (and let's not talk about the cross-over to Room).

I guess it's a classic case of win some... lose some...