I'm making headway on some of those, which makes me feel great. Others? I'm not any closer than I was this time last year.
People clutter is one of those areas. There are just some people in my life that are toxic, yet getting rid of them is difficult because I do care about them or because I work with them. For example:
- The Negative Nanny. This is someone who always has a negative view of events, of people. I'm sure this person thinks that they're being helpful or passing along wisdom, but it's really just negative energy and gossip. When I'm with them, I find myself feeling negative and angsty about things, too. Trying to point out the good parts, or taking a less aggressive tack, well, it just doesn't work.
- The Aggressive Ass. We all know this type: the person who has such a definite, aggressive position on everything. Knowing that this comes from a place of serious insecurity doesn't help, because the positions are so outrageous and insulting about my life. I find that I get equally aggressive, pedantic and angry in return. I worry that this is carrying over to other relationships.
- The Sad Sack. No matter how well things are going, they just can't get past the past. Every conversation eventually turns to The Big Hurt, every action to move forward by others is deemed insensitive.
- The Lying Larry. When you can't trust what the other person is saying (and this includes "the sun is shining" and "it's 1pm"), what hope do you have?