Notable Quotes

Love is about giving, about caring for the other person's welfare. Love is treating someone, in the Kantian sense, never as a means but as an end in themselves. Love is sacrifice, love is something you work at, something you build like a house or tend like a plant, brick by brick, drop by drop, day by day. Nonsense. Old wive's tales, old husband's tales. That is affection they are talking about, that is companionship, that is charity, that is tickets to the Cancer Research Ball. You must ask the young if you want to know what love is. Only they are deep enough in it to describe. We older ones have clues and simulcra, we base our judgement, like pathologists do, on the dents and scars and sediments of hearts long kept in formaldehyde. It is the pulsing heart you want to probe: the pulsing, beating, leaping, dipping, fluttering heart of a seventeen-year-old.
Sabine, A.P.


Anonymous said...

I think he's wrong.

Lazygal said...

I think (not sure) that A.P.'s a woman... it's one of those coy "I won't let you know who wrote this book" things (and a really bad book, to boot).

Still, there is something quite different between the first real love and what you have in your 40s, isn't there?

Anonymous said...

There may be a difference, but to suggest that it's the 17-year-old's feelings that are the "real thing" seems quite wrong-headed. A 17-year-old is barely a person. Sure, if love=lust and said 17-year-old is male, then maybe no one can top what he's capable of. Otherwise, it rings false to me.

(I was close to 30 before I felt consuming passion, and I'm certain my teen self wouldn't have been capable of it.)