In good company

Recently I created a post that aroused suspicion in one reader. When I offered to share my reasons (and proof), someone left an e-mail address for me to respond to. Perhaps I was a bit intemperate in my comments, but I did feel that I had done as much due dilligence as I could have; I also said that I was removing the original comment from the post because it did not further the conversation, merely took away from the impact of the post.

Apparently, the recipient of the e-mail took offense at my taking offense at the aspersions cast on my motivations for the post and suggested some things that were, well... let's just say I wouldn't repeat them in public.

I've been feeling upset about this all weekend and then, today, I read Karen's post about a similar "exchange". Nice to know even the big bloggers get hit with this. And now I have a model for a response.


Aravis said...

I think we all get this sort of nonsense at some point. Another blogging friend of mine was recently attacked for choosing to keep her feelings regarding Katrina to herself rather than blogging about it.

I tend to ignore these people completely. They hate it, and go pick on someone else when they realize they won't get a rise out of me.

Anonymous said...

It's not fun at all when this stuff happens. There's an interesting discussion about this in LiveJournal's blog sociology community, http://www.livejournal.com/community/blog_sociology/178816.html about people feeling obliged to write about tragedies.

I've dealt with trolls before - this is a part of what I wrote to one guy, "I deleted your comment because life's too short for me to deal with this sort of non-constructive criticism. You can be as negative as you like about me, blogs or anything else, but I don't have to let you be so toxic in my little space on the web. For starters, I think you are exaggerating when you say you spent some time on my blog. You found my ... post via Google at 4:01 pm eastern Australian time (over seven hours ago) and then submitted your comment at 4:08 pm. You spent, at the most, 7 minutes evaluating this blog. How many of my posts did you read in this time to reach such a damning conclusion? You must be a real speed reader, that's all I can say. ... Frankly I don't care if you like my blog or not. If you don't like it, please stay away from it and never ever return. ..."

swisslet said...

I don't know if this is helpful or not, but you were over on my blog recently, and you were brave enough (in the midst of a whole pile of supportive comments) to disagree with me and tell me that you thought I was wrong.

That took guts, and I thought pretty highly of you for standing up and being counted.

Just wanted to let you know how your comment made me feel.


Lazygal said...

Thanks, ST. It means a lot for you to say that.

In the case of this post, it wasn't so much disagreeing with me -- anyone is free to do that -- but the comment basically said that the post was fake, and that I was making making it up to get attention and bring traffic in. Had they stopped with "I doubt this post is real", I would have been happy to show why I didn't think it was fake and why I felt it important to share; the added comments about my being a whore for stats was what got it removed.

Keep coming back, and feel free to disagree (or agree) whenever!

Murphy Jacobs said...

I keep a form letter on my site specifically designed for trolls. You see, as argumentative as I am in my natural habitat, I also feel that nothing I say on a weblog comment is going to change another person's mind or opinion, especially if stated with rancor.

And, of course, going around declaring other people statwhores (and there are many who do this) is a simple waste, serving only to inflict harm. OF COURSE YOU WANT PEOPLE TO READ WHAT YOU WRITE! D'uh! And you can't MAKE anyone read what you write. The whole argument is facetious and more than slightly vacuous.

You are welcome to copy and modify the letter for your own purposes if you like. It's linked on the right sidebar.